Are you ready to lay the foundation for a strong and lasting partnership? Sit down with your partner and review the 3 things to discuss before marriage.
BusinessWire reported a survey which found that “money fights are the second leading cause of divorce, behind infidelity.” Although it may be hard, it’s critical to be honest with each other and learn to work together as a team. This is the time for total transparency with student loans, credit scores, and anything else that could impact your financial future together. After you have it all on the table, it’s time to set financial goals, start talking about retirement and build a budget. Apps like Mint or You Need a Budget (YNAB) make it easy to get started.
Are you and your partner on the same page when it comes to starting a family? There is a lot to discuss beyond just naming your future kids. First, agree to a timeline to get started or conditions that must be met before you do, like having a certain amount in savings or graduating with a degree. Second, it’s also important to be on the same page about issues that will come up with them down the road, like schools, religion, and more. When it comes to taking the leap and starting your family, communication is key. You can’t prepare for everything, but learning how to talk through things in a healthy manner before you get engaged will help keep your marriage strong no matter what.
Finally, the future category includes goals for both of you. Do you want to travel? Get a degree? Start a business? These things need to be talked about and agreed upon before you get engaged. Marriage means working as a team and will require sacrifice at times. Making sure both of your dreams, goals, and needs are being met at all times is hard and often impossible, but having a clear understanding of what you want the future to look like before you get engaged can help.
Finances, family, and the future are all critical to maintaining a happy and healthy marriage. Practice your communication and go into your engagement with open eyes and a clear path for the lives you’re building together. Discussing the three “F’s” before you get engaged will help your marriage get off to a great start! 👍🏽