While some feel that the age-old tradition of “asking for a bride's hand in marriage” is archaic, others disagree.
They may feel that asking permission to marry their child shows respect and that they can trust you will take good care of them.
If you’re planning to propose and you’re still on the fence with this decision, we’ve got your back. We’ve put together five reasons why you should still ask the parents before proposing.
It Shows Respect To The Parents
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Choosing to marry someone is a weighty decision! Including the parents on this decision shows that you respect them and their opinion. They know their child the best, and they have lots of wisdom and knowledge that they can give you. Asking them beforehand shows that you recognize this and hold them in high regard.
Her Family Is Very Traditional
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If her family is more traditional, not asking her dad may cause some friction before you even say I do. Her family may feel left out of the situation, and feel even more distant from the groom if they don’t know him well. Parents who feel that they are “losing” their child may appreciate being included in such a big decision.
The Parents Will See How Committed You Are
Asking the parents for permission is never an easy situation. More than likely you’ll be sweating bullets the whole time. However, this shows the parents that you’re committed to their child, and that you’re not here to mess around.
You’ll Receive Support From The Family
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Including the parents in this decision will likely result in you receiving their blessing, as well as family support. If you need help in the long run, they may be more likely to give advice or other help that may be needed. It will help you start on the right foot with your future in-laws.
Parents Can Be In On The Proposal
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It’s no secret that parents love to be in on surprises. Asking for permission before proposing gives them a heads up, and you can include them in the proposal surprise. They might be the help you need to pull off a big day for your future spouse. They’ll appreciate being included on a special day as well!