There are certain fundamental questions in the universe. Who created us? Why are we here? What the heck is the difference between a wedding band and an engagement ring? If you have the answer to at least two of those, you’re doing better than most of us. Luckily, that third question doesn’t have to be a philosophical mystery — and once you learn the difference between an engagement ring and a wedding band, you’ll never forget it.
Getting ready to put a ring on it? Congrats! Most likely, this is your first — and hopefully last — time standing up at the altar, which means you probably have a few questions for the class. In this guide, we’re answering a surprisingly common one — “What’s the difference between an engagement ring and a wedding ring?” — to help you master marriage before you even say, “I do.”
Knowing the difference between the wedding ring and the engagement ring can help you simplify ring shopping and figure out which — if any — ring traditions you want to follow. Let’s start with some ring basics to help you decide.
Engagement Ring
An engagement ring is a ring traditionally given during the proposal to symbolize one’s desire and intent to marry their partner. The proposer usually gives it to the proposee but it can be exchanged and worn by both parties if desired.
Traditionally, the engagement ring comes first, so let’s start there. This is probably the best-known type of ring. Merriam-Webster defines an engagement ring as “a ring given in token of betrothal” — that’s just a fancy word for engagement. The engagement ring is the classic symbol of marriage, often presented by a man to a woman on one knee. Traditionally, the proposer picks out and pays for the engagement ring in the months or weeks leading up to the proposal.
That’s the traditional way of doing things. But — record scratch — it’s not the only way. The reality is that engagement rings are often given from woman to man, man to man and woman to woman. In fact, more and more brides-to-be have been getting on one knee to lock down their future husbands, with the frequency of female-to-male proposals spiking by over 300 percent in recent years. So what we’re saying is you can do it however you want and there are plenty of unique engagement rings out there that will cater to your partner’s personal preference.
Oftentimes, especially in Western culture, it’s uncommon for guys to wear engagement rings. That isn’t to say guys never do, and more in the modern era are choosing to wear engagement rings, but it’s the exception rather than the rule. Of course, if you want to wear an engagement ring and show it off to the world, you’re more than welcome to flaunt your engaged status.
Plus, it’s more common than ever to ditch the expensive diamond in favor of more affordable engagement rings featuring simulated diamonds or non-traditional gemstones, such as emeralds, sapphires or rubies. Sure, a gold- or platinum-set solitaire diamond engagement ring is the classic way of doing things, but an engagement ring can look however you want it to look as long as it symbolizes your love and honors your style. There’s no rule stating the center stone has to be a certain type of gemstone!
Luckily, you can get gorgeous engagement ring style without the high cost with engagement rings from Modern Gents. While ours are just as stunning as the ones from the jewelry store, they won’t be a burden on the budget!
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A wedding band is a ring traditionally exchanged during the wedding ceremony to symbolize unity, commitment and eternal love between two people. Both spouses typically wear wedding bands after getting married.
The wedding band differs from the engagement ring in symbolism, timing and often aesthetic. Unlike with the engagement ring, the rules of who picks out and pays for the wedding band are a bit less clear-cut. The purchase often comes out of the general wedding budget and may be paid for by the couple as a unit. However, when the wedding ring is given is quite clear: on the wedding day itself. Both women’s and men’s wedding bands are purchased in the months leading up to the wedding ceremony and then swapped during the ring exchange vows.
Unlike the engagement ring, both members of the couple traditionally wear a wedding ring, which means the designs and styles vary a bit more than they do with your typical engagement ring. The wedding band is usually more minimalist and often doesn’t involve any major bling. While it doesn’t have to be a plain metal band, wedding bands tend to err on the side of simplicity, mainly to match with the more stylistically important engagement ring. Think a simple titanium ring for the guys or a slim rose gold eternity band for the ladies. Sometimes, the band is meant to match the engagement ring for a cohesive look. There are also matching wedding bands that allow husband and wife to have the same (or very similar) rings. You can even buy them together, which saves you money. Check out some of our bridal sets to see what we mean.
Shop All Wedding Ring SetsHow do you wear an engagement ring and a wedding band together? In American culture, both the wedding and engagement rings are worn on the left-hand ring finger. You can wear them in whatever order you please, but traditionally, the wedding band goes on the ring finger of your left hand first, so it’s closer to the heart. However, if you’d prefer to wear your ring on your right hand, that’s okay! It doesn’t even have to be your fourth finger.
Even after the wedding date, you can add a stackable wedding band. Stackable wedding bands make great gifts for special occasions like anniversaries or other major milestones. Plus, you can mix and match these as you choose, maybe wearing a wedding ring normally and adding one or two bands for more formal occasions. There’s no strong guidance on this though, so wear your bands and rings however you see fit.
Choosing the Perfect Rings
Selecting both an engagement ring and wedding band is a significant decision that requires careful consideration of several factors. When it comes to engagement rings, the center stone is a primary focus. While diamonds remain the traditional choice, other gemstones such as sapphires, rubies or emeralds are becoming increasingly popular, offering a unique and personalized touch. Diamond alternatives like moissanite are good options, too, along with semi-precious gems like morganite and rose quartz that serve as symbols of love.
The setting of the ring is equally important, as it not only affects the overall appearance but also determines how securely the center stone is held. The choice of metal — be it white gold, yellow gold, rose gold or platinum — can dramatically influence the ring's look and durability. Lastly, the style of the engagement ring, ranging from classic solitaires to vintage-inspired designs, should reflect the wearer's personal taste and preferences.
For wedding bands, cohesiveness with the engagement ring is often a key consideration, with many couples choosing bands that complement the engagement ring's design. Some couples even opt for matching wedding bands as a symbol of their unity. Comfort is crucial when selecting a wedding band, as these rings are typically worn daily. The band should feel comfortable on the finger and not interfere with daily activities. Durability is another important factor to consider, especially when choosing materials and designs. Couples should take into account their lifestyle and occupational factors that might impact the wear and tear on the ring. By carefully considering these aspects for both engagement rings and wedding bands, couples can choose rings that symbolize their commitment and suit personal style and practical needs.
Evolving Traditions
While understanding the traditional differences between engagement rings and wedding bands is helpful, it's important to remember that these are guidelines, not rules. Many couples create their own traditions by adapting ring customs to better suit their preferences and relationships. Some couples choose to use only a wedding band, forgoing the engagement ring entirely, while others opt for an engagement ring that doubles as a wedding band. Same-sex couples might have two engagement rings or two wedding bands, or mix and match as they see fit, creating a unique representation of their union.
This evolution of ring traditions demonstrates that the most important aspect of these symbols is not adherence to convention, but rather the personal meaning and significance they hold for the couple wearing them.
Know Your Rings
At the end of the day, wedding traditions are only suggestions, and you can take them or leave them as you please. Following long-standing traditions and making it up as you go both have their pros and cons. Whether you choose to rock them both or none at all is totally up to you and your spouse-to-be. As long as you find the perfect ring that represents your love for one another, you’re doing it right! Be sure to shop our entire collection of rings to find one that celebrates your relationship.
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