From ancient matchmakers to dating apps, compatibility has been the name of the game when it comes to joining two people together. For an equally long time, the tradition of exchanging rings has gone hand in hand with an exchange of marriage vows. So is it meaningful for the wedding bands themselves to match? Here’s an answer that has driven matchmaking algorithms crazy for generations: It depends on the couple and their personal style.
Every marriage is its own unique balance of public partnership and intimate mystery, and no one’s fate depends on a jeweler’s inventory. But since we are in the online jewelry store business, we’ve seen a thing or two about how couples choose to symbolize their love. So we thought we’d share what we’ve observed about the choice to match his and hers wedding bands.
It’s OK to Have Different Styles and Tastes
It’s OK to like different things as long as you still like each other. Just because the two of you don’t have the same top five favorite movies, it doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed. Just because one of you likes a simple bit of silver and the other prefers lavishly ornamented yellow gold, it doesn’t disqualify you as soulmates.
Really, just upfront, you can have two wildly different rings. There’s no rule that says you can’t. Maybe one of you loves the sleek look of tungsten and the other is looking for the classic gold ring. A gold band and that metal type don’t particularly match, nor do they really complement each other, but that’s perfectly fine! Maybe one of you has sensitivities to certain precious metals while the other doesn’t. Whatever the case, you’re more than welcome to just pick rings you each like.
Sometimes Compatible Means Complementary
If you had to wear the same thing as proof of marriage, then both the bride and groom would wear a tux on wedding day. Obviously, that doesn’t have to be the case. So if one of you wants to shop for an eternity band because you know your love will go the distance and the other wants a hypoallergenic metal ring, both sound like good reasons to us! And if you’re interested in different metals, then take a look at our catalog of men’s wedding bands.Shop Our Men’s Wedding Bands
It’s OK to Share Things in Common
You’ve got the same home address. You get under the same set of sheets. You love matching outfits. Not only is your list of favorite films identical, but a shared passion for the cinema was a key component of your courtship.
And, wouldn’t you know it, you’ve got the same taste in jewelry, too. Don’t be embarrassed! This isn’t like when you change your drink order so it doesn’t seem like you are blindly copying your blind date. You’re married, for goodness sake. Say “We’ll both have the Rosé” to your waiter and rose gold to your jeweler, and toast the life you share together.
It’s Also OK to Meet Each Other Halfway
Maybe you like the same movies but for different reasons. Or maybe you share the same palate when it comes to food but operate from different ends of the palette when it comes to clothes. Meeting in the middle isn’t a compromise — it’s how people fit their lives together. Maybe you both share a fondness for rose gold but have extremely different ring finger sizes. Choose a common element and enjoy the comfort of a different fit.
Going this route actually opens up tons of avenues for creativity. Maybe your inlay matches the main color of her engagement ring. Maybe they’re the exact inverse of each other. Forcing yourselves to meet halfway may not sound like the flashiest idea, but it’s those kinds of constraints that can bring out the greatest creativity.
Just Make Sure the Compromise Works for Both of You
You will wear these bands for the rest of your life. So if a common theme doesn’t work for both of you, don’t resign yourself to it. You know what will look good on both of you? The satisfaction of being pleased with something you plan on wearing for decades.
A Matching Set — with Some Alternates
Maybe one of you works in a hospital. Or is a gym rat. Or both! Maybe you both rock that matching his and hers set when you are coordinating for your Christmas photo, but, if one of you is on a business trip and the other one is catching a morning surf session, don’t worry if you are asking different things from your wedding jewelry. Buy an extra set of travel or workout rings. This is a simple halfway point between a traditional choice of matching wedding rings and getting a pair that looks completely different from the other. Plus, if you change your mind on the look of your travel ring, it’s inexpensive to get a different color.
Your left hand shouldn't’ be a source of contention before you’re married. Unless, of course, you’re wearing your wedding bands on the right hand — but you get the idea. Rings are a beautiful symbol of lifelong commitment but they shouldn’t be a source of contention before you’re even married. Tastes change, and maybe a few years later, you’ll want something matching as an anniversary ring.
If you like, you can forgo the rings altogether and choose some simple everyday jewelry or matching necklaces. Get matching earrings if that’ll help you compromise. The point is that the ring is only the symbol of the union, not the focal point of the whole thing.
It’s more important for you and your partner to be on the same page about your relationship than it is for you to have similar rings. But if matching wedding bands are a moving symbol or just a fun reminder of the love that unites you, then go for it!Check Our Selection of His and Hers Wedding Bands