Getting engaged is one of the biggest things you will do in your life!
But after you get engaged, there is a list a mile long of things to do and get done before your big day. It can be stressful to know which to do first, which to do last, and how to keep your head while doing everything in between. To help you out, here is a list of 10 things NOT to do when you get engaged:
Don't #1: Waiting to tell people
Of course, after getting engaged, you may want to celebrate just the two of you and soak in the fact that you are starting a new journey in life together. However, waiting too long to tell people can sometimes hurt feelings, as well as take away some of the climax of getting engaged. Your friends and family will want to share in your joy, and delaying the news will also delay the excitement.
Ring: The Evermore
Don't #2: Not immediately celebrating!
Following closely behind not waiting to tell people, waiting to celebrate can also be a negative thing. It’s important to take the time to share your excitement with family and friends, and to do it while the proposal is still fresh. Whether between the two of you or with a group, going out or doing something at home, make sure you do something to mark the engagement.
Don't #3: Procrastinating on setting a date
One of the first questions you will be asked by friends, family and well-wishers is: “have you set a date yet?” This question will plague you until you actually sit down with your fiancé/e and set a wedding date. Setting a date shortly after getting engaged will make your lives easier and allow you to start planning as soon as you’re ready.
Ring: The Lovely
Don't #4: Hiring a bad photographer
While this may seem like common sense, getting a bad photographer for engagement or wedding pictures is an all too common occurrence. This is usually due to a tight wedding budget and needing to cut back. But these pictures will be the ones you look back on together, show friends and family, and show to future children and grandchildren. You will want these to look amazing, so it's important to get a professional! And remember, what you pay for is usually what you get.
Don't #5: Overspending on wedding rings
Wedding rings can get expensive and finding a set that the both of you like can become overwhelming very quickly. Modern Gents has affordable and inexpensive wedding rings that look fabulous and come with a lifetime warranty. They have both men's and women's rings, with several unique and beautiful options to choose from. Because they're so affordable, you can get several bands to mix and match depending on your mood and style. With the money you save, you can put that money toward your wedding, your honeymoon, or anything else you choose!
Ring: The Meadow
Don't #6: Forget about each other!
It can become so easy to be wrapped up in wedding planning, that you end up forgetting the reason why you are doing it in the first place: each other! Make sure that in the craziness of it all, the two of you make time for – well, the two of you! You got engaged to be together, so make sure you carve out time to do just that.
Don't #7: Be too general with detail
While there may be some general ideas you have for your wedding, it is important to include personal details in your wedding that reflect the two of you. The personal touches can be small, but they will leave a big impact on everyone who attends. Incorporating both of your personalities into your big day is a great way to remind everyone of how your love story began, and to showcase who you are as a couple.
Don't #8: Trying to do everything yourself
As you begin planning your wedding, you will find that there is a lot to do, and it may seem tempting to try to do it all on your own. However, accepting help is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your sanity. There is nothing wrong with accepting a little help, especially since it's regarding the biggest day of your life! If a wedding planner is in your budget, consider hiring a professional. If not, your best friends and closest family members will be more than willing to lend a hand!
Don't #9: Worrying about everyone else
From the moment you become engaged, everyone will have an opinion on something. These well-meaning people will want to share those opinions with you. From wedding colors and decorations to music and food, there will be opinions everywhere you turn. Please try to remember that other people can have their own thoughts, but your wedding is about you and your fiancé/e. Focus on what the two of you want and ignore the many ideas of everyone else.
The ultimate DON'T #10: Stress about the perfect wedding
You may have this fantasy in your head when you get engaged, of what the perfect wedding should look like. It can be very easy to get so wrapped up in the fantasy that you forget the meaning of the wedding itself: the joining of you and your partner. At the end of the day, the wedding will be perfect because it's your wedding! Nothing in life ever comes perfectly, but take it for what it is and embrace it. Enjoy your day, enjoy your sweetheart, and enjoy your new life together!